Oil Spill Families

Today my sister sent me a link with the interview Anderson Cooper made to the families that survived the Oil Spill. I identified so much with these wives. Once thing I heard many times is "This is not the same man I married, he is different". I felt they heard me talk in the past but it is just that we all go through the same experience. God knows how many times I have said to myself "Where is my husband?", how some days I miss so much my old Victor. I fear many times forgetting how he was, his voice, his gestures, the way he laughted... At the same time it feels selfish because he is here and so many Soldiers have lost their life or are severely disabled, but I feel I also lost my husband and it feels wrong.

Despite all these feelings I do not regret living the life I have now, because I have been meeting an making new wonderful friends. It is a new world of experiences and anecdotes. Now I can see the power of love and the power of a marriage based in true friendship. My heart goes to these oil spill spouses because they may not have a support system of spouses that are experiencing the same events in life. I would like all the military spouses of Wounded Warriors to embrace this spouses as they are part of our team, one that doesn not look at military branches nor ranks, but one that accepts and supports all those who have survived tragedy.

My husband and I are committed to advocate for those with Traumatic Brain Injury, military or not. We have met some of the most wonderful TBI survivors in the community and we see their struggles and pain. This is the historic time to come together.

To watch the video go to: http://www.cnn.com/2011/US/04/20/rig.survivors.wives/?hpt=T2


  1. I've only just read this first post and I completely understand all of your thoughts. My husband also has TBI. Thank you for sharing and being willing to be a voice for others!

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