Perseverance


It has been quite some time since I last wrote to you. It has been a very busy and hectic past months. Victor and I are working on some projects that will change the policy for the treatment of TBI. In the past couple of years we had our ups and downs and our life changed drastically, but we are perseverant, we do not give up easily.

Victor and I just celebrated our 11th Anniversary and we went to our favorite spot on Earth, Disney World. We celebrated our Honeymoon as well as every anniversary Victor was home in Disney. It was a time of reflection and fun at the same time. We enjoyed so much, just like the old times. We realized that this new normal did not stop nor affected how we will share and how we were going to enjoy our life. We always had great conversations and we still have them, just about different topics.

We now strive to make a better world for those with traumatic brain injury and their families, but since we cannot talk to each person and family with TBI, we decided to have blogs, also we decided to continue advocating in Congress for the implementation of new policy. It is a slow process but PERSEVERANCE is the action that better describes successful accomplishments.

As a caregiver it is not just about taking care of your loved one but how can you take care of yourself through that relationship? Is is obvious that this does not apply for every injury and severity. Look for things that make you happy as an individual and as a couple. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself and please try to appreciate your surroundings in the midst of tragedy. Look in the garden and if you see a flower, feel that God made it for you to brighten your day. If all you see are cactuses like here in the desert of El Paso then think that they hold great amount of water to survive the harsh environment, so how we see things depends on us and not determined by our circumstances.

Like Ralph WaldoEmerson said: " Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail"

Have a beautiful and joyful weekend.

Hugs!

Roxana

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